Tips For Talking To Children About Mental Health.pdf

We all know it's horrible to be half listened to. Keep eye contact, focus on the child and ignore distractions. Calmly stay with the feelings that arise: It can be our automatic reaction to steer away from difficult emotions. Take it seriously: Don't downplay what the child is saying or tell them they're "just being silly". Resist the urge to reassure them that everything is fine. Ask open questions: Such as "How did your day go today?" This will help to extend the conversation. Offer empathy rather than solutions: Show that you accept what they are telling you but don't try to solve the problem. Some ways to start a conversation about feelings might be: "How are you feeling at the moment?" "You don't seem your usual self. Do you want to talk about it?" "Do you fancy a chat?" "I'm happy to listen if you need a chat." Make conversations about mental health a normal part of life: Anywhere is a good place to talk; in the car, walking the dog or cooking together. Model everyday talk about feelings such as by talking about a TV character's feelings. Check your body language: Try to keep it open and relaxed and make sure you come down to the child's level. Remember we are all different: Respect and value the child's feelings, even though they may be different to yours. Look for clues about feelings: Listen to the child's words, tone of voice and body language. Mental health is about our feelings, our thinking, our emotions and our moods. Looking after our mental health is important. We all have small feelings every day: These sometimes feel strong and overwhelming, whether happy or sad, but they go away before too long. Sometimes we experience big feelings: These feel strong and overwhelming for a long time. They stop us doing what we want to in our lives. As parents, we all want our children to have the best possible start in life. Encouraging children to understand and be open about their feelings can give them the skills to cope with the ups and downs that life will throw at them as they grow up. It's important that our children understand that emotions are normal, and that they have the confidence to ask for help if they are struggling.